Double blessing, double everything

Having twins you always get to hear phrases like “Awwww, they are twins?”, “Are they a boy and a girl?”, “You are a very lucky woman”. I have heard that in some cultures if you have a twin boy and girl, you own a certain amount of luck. But when people tell me this, they forget that the kids are for sure a “double blessing” and a “double everything” else. Having twins a boy and a girl you will firstly experience the “double worlds” of gender cultures. Be ready for it is an intense difference. When you have two kids same age different genders you will be amazed at how different they both grow up; their interests, their passions, the kind of toys that appeal to them, how they behave, the loud voice, the level of activity, favorite cartoon characters and so on.

You also have to endure “double the expenses” since day one. Every pregnant woman i knew was buying one single car seat, we were buying two, single stroller, we were buying a combo one, clothes for one gender, we were getting two sets one for a boy and another for a girl. you buy toys for two especially in our case where we have a boy or a girl you need to buy a car for every Barbie you get the girl and vice versa.

The one thing that concerns me the most is “double the effort”. People keep telling me “Wow you did it, you don’t need to go through pregnancy again”, “You are done for life”, “Good it is a boy and girl so you never consider a second pregnancy”. Even if they were the same gender I wasn't going to consider a second pregnancy. Who can guarantee that this third child is the other gender? Also for single child mothers, you need to know the twin pregnancy is double the pain and can count as two pregnancies at the same time. Anyhow I just want to say that yes we are “blessed” with them and yes we are “lucky” as some people say. They are twice the love, twice the smiles and twice the fun but raising twins especially at the very first couple of years is “double the challenge”.